Everyday day same thoughts go through my mind why I am such a mess? Why can’t I figure out things more easily? Why can’t I take a better decision?
Whenever I have such thoughts, I talk to my friends. And from them I have learnt that the rising confusions are itself a sign of growth. They are not vulnerabilities, they are strengths because we think from the listener’s perspective. Not many people do that.
But sometimes yes, it goes way too much.
But life is like a cake being baked. It takes a few errors before you find out the right proportion of ingredients for that perfect consistency. And unlike the YouTube tutorials on how to bake a cake we don’t have a tutorial specially curated for an individual or a particular situation . So it might take a lot errors and confusions to find that perfect balance and even if you don’t find that, life will teach those lessons over the period of time.
This felt very real.Self doubt and confusion often seem heavy in the moment, but they truly can be signs that we’re evolving and thinking deeper. I loved the cake analogy growth really is a process of trial, error, and patience. Thank you for putting such honest thoughts into words.
i used to think this always. but then as i am ageing i realize people dont care about us. They just need reaction from us and we can never please people. but yes maintain healthy distance when you can’t heal.its common saying from elders if you cant do positive dont be negative for anyone.. Don’t approach anyone if you are in healing phase or you arent ready for communication. dont speak out of anger or anxiety. and balance of communication and silence is necessary and most important not everyone want people around or want to be alone. So personalize your nature and acta ccordingly,never overshare or over explain
I love the cake analogy! As a biochemist, I see this ‘mess’ as the necessary state of entropy before we reach a higher level of organization. Just like a complex reaction requires a bit of chaos and the right activation energy to proceed, our personal growth often feels messy before it settles into something beautiful. Those moments of confusion are just your internal system reconfiguring for the next stage.
I often find myself stuck in persistent overthinking. This tendency disrupts my productive habits and affects my overall efficiency. I frequently imagine scenarios that are unlikely to occur, yet I spend a significant amount of time dwelling on them. As a result, I unintentionally waste valuable time and struggle to stay focused on meaningful tasks.
Yeah, I’ve definitely had thoughts like that—and honestly, you explained them really beautifully.
I try to manage them by reminding myself that confusion usually means I care and I’m growing, not failing. When it gets overwhelming, I slow down, write things out, or give myself permission to not have everything figured out yet. Life really is trial and error—messy, imperfect, but still moving forward. And sometimes, just being patient with myself is the best decision I can make.
Wish we had a youtube channel like you said . I always get curious and worry about my actions and decisions.When there are good friends or mentors to advise us it’s a different story.But when we don’t have such goto options,then it’s like trial and error.We have to learn from our mistakes.
Overthinking can confuse us by making simple decisions feel complicated. Dwelling too much on ‘what-ifs’ clouds our judgment and creates unnecessary stress. Sometimes, taking action or focusing on facts is better than overanalyzing every possibility.
Yes, I didn’t know it had a term called EVER THOUGHT, but I am trying to get away from this habit of regretting my decisions and over-analyzing every little detail. What I need to do is execute my best work and learn from my failures.
. So it might take a lot errors and confusions to find that perfect balance and even if you don’t find that, life will teach those lessons over the period of time.
. I always get curious and worry about my actions and decisions.When there are good friends or mentors to advise us it’s a different story.But when we don’t have such goto options,then it’s like trial and error.We have to learn from our mistakes.