Once upon a time, A said to B “I think I ruined everything we shared”
On that B said, “ You didn’t ruin anything…as long as you understand when to stop overthinking.”
It was meant to calm her down. Very simple to understand and very honest.
But later, the sentence didn’t feel simple anymore.
A thought..
“ Didn’t ruin anything… as long as?”
“ So maybe I did ruin it?”
“ Was everything fine before, and now it’s not?”
The reassurance started bending and changing shape in her head.
And without realising it, the only thing he pointed out- she was already doing it again.
Nothing was actually broken between them
Just one sentence…
Slowly breaking in her mind.
That’s classic overthinking loop
MBH/AB
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A loop of overthinking is difficult to break. The mind can interpret one single sentence in different ways and create situations that actually don’t exist at all.
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overthinking loops are hard to break- especially when the word starts to feel heavier than it actually is. and also, sometimes it’s not the situation- it’s the mind making it more complex.
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Well written—this is a reality many of us need to recognize.
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excellent example of how overthinking and overthinkers actually work! 
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In clinical and personal decisions alike, overthinking often delays clarity more than it improves it. Having said that, I do realise what kind of loop it throws us into and how difficult it is to come out of it. Clarity comes only when we step back, though it is the hardest thing to do that at point but you can only overcome it but not acting on it. I’ve found that taking even a small step forward, completing microtasks and just showing up breaks the cycle better than waiting for perfect clarity.
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