Stress is not about events, but about how we interpret them. Stress occurs when a person feels that demands exceed their coping resources.
Imagine a final-year medical student who has:
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University exams in 10 days
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Clinical duties every morning
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A seminar presentation to prepare
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Family expectations to “do well”
Step 1: The situation (demand)
The demands are:
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Large syllabus
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Limited time
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Multiple responsibilities
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Pressure to perform
Step 2: The person’s appraisal
The student thinks:
“There’s too much to study.”
“I don’t have enough time or energy.”
“If I fail, it will be a disaster.”
Here, the perceived demand feels very high.
Step 3: Coping resources
Coping resources include:
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Time
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Energy
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Study skills
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Emotional support
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Confidence from past experiences
If the student feels:
“I’m already exhausted.”
“I don’t remember anything I read.”
“I’m alone in this.”
Then the coping resources feel insufficient.
Step 4: Stress response
Because the student feels that demands > coping resources, stress occurs:
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Anxiety and overthinking
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Poor sleep
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Palpitations before studying
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Reduced concentration
Another student with the same workload thinks:
“I’ve handled worse before.”
“I’ll make a realistic timetable.”
“I can ask friends for notes.”
Here, coping resources feel adequate, so stress is much lower.
Two people in the same situation can experience very different stress levels based on beliefs, past experiences, and emotional regulation. Stress is unavoidable, how we handle it matters more.
HOW DO YOU HANDLE STRESSFUL SITUATIONS?
MBH/PS
