I once heard someone say that going alone to a theatre or hotel shows that only one person can truly handle everything and that’s ourselves.
It made me think… is it really about independence and strength, or just comfort with our own company? Maybe both. Because sometimes enjoying alone feels powerful, and sometimes sharing moments with others feels even better.
Do you agree that being able to enjoy alone means we can handle anything in life?
MBH/PS
We cannot handle everything alone in life, as well as we cannot be with anyone in every aspect of life. Sometimes we need to be alone and sometimes we need somebody.
I feel we need to be both types . Sometimes we need a group to enjoy be it family or friends, sometimes as a couple, some solo dates and solo travel also brings us joy . according to situation and place we can enjoy
Time teaches us everything in life. There are times when we got to be for ourselves,and also times when we need to share with our loved ones. I feel being stable,contended and unaffected by external conditions is what we need to master.
To be able to enjoy your own company means you don’t have to wait for someone else to do what you want. You want to watch a movie? You don’t have to wait for someone who might cancel. It’s more about feeling comfortable enjoying life alone. You don’t need another person to live the life you want.
I enjoy having a meal by myself, I truly enjoy it. Let me share a personal experience:
When I was in college, we celebrated the Harela festival every year, and there was a fair with rides. I really wanted to go on one ride, but because of my mindset that happiness must be shared, I didn’t want to go alone. I asked friends to accompany me, but no one could. I felt disappointed.
Then I realized: why should I wait to do what I want? So, I went by myself, paid for the ticket, and got on the ride. It felt strange, awkward, and uncomfortable at first. But once the ride started, I had a different feeling: a sense of freedom, of being exactly what I wanted to be without depending on someone else.
That doesn’t mean I can handle everything alone. I still need my family when I’m feeling down. I still want my best friend available when I need to vent. But I spend about 90% of my time with myself and I feel good doing that. Being around people drains my energy most of the time. I am 110% productive and happy when I work by myself.
You do need solitude to get things done and to increase focus.But there should be balance between solitude and mingling to have a healthy social life style.