🌟 Why do good people often end up exhausted?

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Ever noticed how the kindest people around us are also the most tired? :pensive_face:

It’s not because they can’t handle life it’s because they give too much:

• Saying yes even when they want to say no :folded_hands:

• Carrying others’ emotions like it’s their own :broken_heart:

• Prioritizing everyone else before themselves :three_o_clock:

Kindness is a strength, but without boundaries, it becomes a heavy weight.

:light_bulb: Remember: You can be compassionate and take care of yourself. Saying no isn’t selfish it’s survival. Setting limits doesn’t make you less kind it makes your kindness sustainable.

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So, tell me how do you protect your energy while staying kind? :speech_balloon:

MBH/PS

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Well said! :yellow_heart: When self-care is balanced with genuine kindness, it flourishes. Many caring people are unaware that they can continue to give in a meaningful way by safeguarding their own energy. Saying “no” is a strategy for maintaining emotional well-being and avoiding burnout; it is not a sign of rejection. Kindness is strengthened by boundaries rather than diminished. A rested, respected, and refueled heart is the source of the most genuine care. :herb::sparkles:

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It’s hard to learn but being able to say ‘no’ sometimes is a very important ability to have, for the good of both yourself and the people around you

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Beautifully expressed Dr. Shruti, You’re absolutely right, boundaries protect the heart, not harden it.

One simple tip: schedule a short “pause hour” each week just for yourself where there is no guilt, no tasks, just recharge.

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So true Dr. Mugdha, saying “no” is an act of self-respect, not selfishness. :herb:

Tip/Suggestion from my side: Before saying “yes,” pause and ask yourself, “Does this nourish me or drain me?”, your answer will always guide you right.

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True! Selflessness is so glorified that we feel guilty when we prioritize ourselves. This conditioning leads us to think it’s self centered to make time for ourselves.

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Dr. Anshul, your reflection hits right at the heart of what so many silently carry.

It’s almost paradoxical the very empathy that makes someone ‘good’ can also hollow them out if it isn’t paired with self-preservation.

I sometimes feel kindness without boundaries is like giving water from a well that’s never refilled noble, but eventually dry.

Do you think our culture glorifies selflessness so much that we forget to teach people the art of sustainable compassion

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Very intuitive article Dr Anshul!! The key to not feel exhausted is give only how much you should not everything you can otherwise people end up taking advantage of you

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Very much true@Dr.Anshul. But it takes a lot of time for these kind of people to rise above their qualities and learn to say “no”

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Exactly, Nevethaa! :yellow_heart: Our culture often glorifies selflessness, making people feel guilty for setting boundaries. True compassion isn’t about giving endlessly, it’s about sustaining your own well-being so your kindness lasts. Refill your well first, and then give, it’s not selfish, it’s essential. :herb::sparkles:

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Exactly! :raising_hands: Shreyas, Giving with intention, not endlessly, is the real key. Setting limits protects your energy and ensures your kindness doesn’t get drained or exploited. :yellow_heart::sparkles:

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Absolutely! Dr. Triveni, :herb: It does take time and practice, but every small step toward saying “no” strengthens boundaries. Kindness and self-preservation can grow together, it’s a journey, not a race. :yellow_heart: