Yeah, the other kid-- that’s me.
Every family gathering has had the same script for years-- that they would bring some random relative’s son/daughter who is in the same class of me-- and suddenly they look at me with a strange face. But I know what they’re gonna say with just one look, because it’s almost a tradition for me.
Those comparisons weren’t loud -but those quiet and constant looks have its own kind of loudness.
Slowly, I stopped seeing what I had and started only measuring the gap. At the same point I just stopped running that race.
I shifted from chasing only marks to understand what I actually needed to learn. From competing with others TO growing in what actually matters.
Each small win became mine. Not ranked. Not comparison. JUST MINE.
Being an average on someone’s else scale- that doesn’t make you ordinary, it just means your story looks different from them.
That pressure of being comparison didn’t break me.it built me.
What are some ways you stop comparing yourself to others and start looking inward ?
MBH/PS
It takes a whole lot of effort to break this cycle and raise as a self confident person. A very beautiful quote has inspired me- “You don’t have to take criticism from those whom you won’t take advices from”.
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yes, its true. we don’t have to take an advice from the people who criticized us.
This is something so relatable, and I deeply resonate with what you have so beautifully penned. A child facing comparisons or a child more indulgent in nonacademic activities is conditioned to believe that they are inferior and ends up as an individual with low self-esteem. That is so unfair to a child, who has his whole life ahead of him. I am just glad that I had my parents supporting me throughout. Otherwise, I would never end up, today, where I am.
I know for a fact now, and it might be a very unpopular opinion, but our generation will surely prove to be better parents. The things that we have been through, we should make sure that the upcoming generation does not have to.
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It doesn’t take much , just one moment to realise that you are important and nobody else you . You make you! Certain people realise it early , some late and some never! But I am glad to hear that you did. It’s a constant fight of you with you . I hope we win one day!
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Comparison can happen in every aspect of life starting with school and collage marks , job salary, career growth. But we need to understand that everyone have their own journey and path to walk on. Comparison just make you feel down and demotivated.
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