Having good friends in our lives is truly a blessing, people with whom we can talk for infinite hours, share everything without being judged, and feel completely safe. Yet many of us find it difficult to make such friends.
We often struggle to understand who the right people are who genuinely match our vibe, who is sincere, and who is not competing, jealous, or trying to pull us down. This is something we commonly face in schools and colleges.
What I feel is that during this journey, we eventually meet someone with whom we truly connect. Yes, a sense of competition may exist, but it is healthy, where both of us are happy seeing each other grow and stand by one another.
However, as life moves forward, we shift to different colleges, cities, or even countries. At such times, even if you are unable to find new friends immediately, it is better to stay in touch with your old ones. Keep calling them. Life does get busy, but staying connected through the journey matters. When such people are present in your life, even if not physically around 24/7, you won’t feel frustrated with a current friend circle that may not feel as fulfilling.
Of course, this does not mean you stop meeting new people. As humans and social beings, we will always form new connections. But that safe space, which we may not find everywhere, can be preserved through our true friends.
Friendship in modern times is not valued; it’s my personal opinion. Everyone is busy in their own world, life, and routine. It is important to maintain old friendships while also making new ones. At the end of the day, value your own company.
Not every new environment immediately gives us deep friendships, and that is completely normal. Strong relationships take time, shared experiences, and trust to develop.
I truly relate to this topic. I have a few friends who have been a very important part of my life for more than 15 years. As life moves forward with careers, family responsibilities, and people moving to different places, we don’t always get the time to talk regularly. Sometimes weeks or even months pass before we call each other.
But what amazes me is that whenever we finally talk,even if it is just for 5 or 10 minutes ,it feels like we spoke only yesterday. There is no awkwardness, just the same comfort, care, and understanding. That bond is something very special and irreplaceable.
I do meet new people and make new friends, and some of them also leave a positive impact on my life. But the space that old friends hold in our hearts cannot be replaced.
So I believe it is not about choosing one over the other. It is about maintaining a balance ,cherishing the old friendships that shaped us while being open to new connections that life brings.
Both matters.Old friends carry your history;they have seen your growth,been with you to share your highs and lows.Also its important in staying open to make new friends.This helps to lead a balanced life.
