One of the quiet lessons life teaches you is this — not everyone who walks with you is meant to stay till the end.
During our journey, we meet many people. Some become close — sharing long duties, late-night conversations, common dreams. They slowly find a place in your heart. But as time passes, paths change. Priorities shift. And for your own wellbeing, you realise that holding on to certain connections starts costing more than it gives. Most of us don’t really let go. We just pretend to. We stay connected in thoughts, expectations, and unspoken hopes.
That’s when it becomes clear —you cannot carry every bond forward without losing yourself. Letting go isn’t about lack of gratitude. You truly value the growth you had when you were with them. But some people are chapters, not the whole book. They matter just not forever.
Beyond textbooks, this lesson stayed with me — you cannot treasure everyone along the journey. Letting go is not weakness.
WHAT LESSONS STAYED WITH YOU AFTER YOUR MED SCHOOL?
after med school i learned that no one entertains you forever, also every lesson, success and failure has a person.Also the power of like minded people communication and being with every doctor and contributing yours and our uniqueness to make it beautiful collaboration
Med school taught me that relationships evolve just like careers do. During college, friendships are intense and constant, but once paths start diverging—PGs, clinical practice, management—time together naturally reduces.
That shift isn’t negative; it reflects growth and changing priorities. What stays with us are the memories, shared struggles, and the impact those people had on who we became. Those lessons, more than anything, are what med school leaves behind.
After med school I realised not everyone is going to be in your lifelong so normalize to call the people as your classmate, colleagues and letting go is’n t easy but all can be in the phase of letting go.
Very well said. You can’t hold onto someone forever but you can always cherish the moments you had with them and how the connection with them shaped you into the person you are today and the harsh truth is-sometimes letting go or maybe learning to keep those feelings to yourself while not truly letting go only helps you grow into an emotionally mature person while still having that tenderness in some corner of your heart.
After med school I strongly realised that,we can’t stop the time to stay with our school, college friends.Everyone has to move on.
You may have many friends,but they can’t be with you for a long time.
You have to design your life by your own knowledge,hardwork and experience.You are the only one ,who is responsible for the good and bad situation of your life.
I learned moving on and accepting the situation is best for us.
eautifully said. One of the lasting lessons from medical training is learning boundaries—knowing when to hold on and when to let go, without guilt. Growth often requires release, not resentment.
Letting go happens in layers,First, you understand it’s necessary,Then, you resist it,Eventually, you accept it.And one day, you realize you’re lighter.It doesn’t always look dramatic. Sometimes it’s quiet,choosing peace over explanation, distance over arguments,growth over nostalgia.And no—you don’t “forget.”You just stop letting it have power over you.
After med school I realized that friends and colleagues are just one chapter of the book. You cannot hold onto them lifelong. The bond that we share during med school does not remain the same as time progresses. Everybody gets busy in their own lives. The only thing that remains are the memories. We have to let go and embark on a new chapter.