In today’s world of constant and instant advices, “true listening” from someone is absolutely a rare act of care. Many Neuroscience research studies highlight that, when one feels heard, it can calm their brain’s stress response faster (in comparison with when one is loaded with advices) resulting in the activation of certain neural networks that define physical safety. When a person is already in distress, advices will not help, as the PFC region of the brain responsible for decision-making will not be sharp at that moment. Rather, at the moments of distress with bunch of advices one can feel more lost. People do not always seek wisdom, often they need understanding like someone sitting with their truth or their problem and not trying to solve it in any way. Sometimes, the most powerful form of support is simply holding space for someone, so that they can unfold.
I’ve felt this so many times. Sometimes when I’m sad, I don’t want solutions I just want someone to really listen. Even a simple I’m here for you feels more comforting than advice. Being heard makes the pain feel lighter, even if nothing is fixed.
Exactly. In today’s generation, everyone is quick to give free advice, but very few are actually ready to just listen without interrupting or judging.Sometimes, we don’t need solutions we just want someone to hear us, to understand our silence, our pain. When you truly listen to someone without judging, they feel light, safe, and seen. And that comfort means way more than any advice ever could.
Sometimes the kindest thing we can offer isn’t a solution, but our presence. Just being there, listening without judgment, can be more healing than any advice.
